Confidence men are admired by women and envied by most men, everyone wants to be the guy who knows his limitations, his fears but yet still proceed, a confident man is not afraid of rejection.
A confident man is not afraid to express his thoughts, not afraid to try out new ideas, not afraid to take risk (in my opinion, the more risk you take as a man, the more confident and refined you are as a man) a confident man don’t just imagine, they take action.
Are you the guy who wishes to make that pretty girl that you just saw in your neighborhood your girlfriend but don’t have the courage to Walk up to her and say “hi”
If you are, don’t worry, you are not alone, my goal with beaman.com.ng is to help you that dream man that you had always wanted to be.
Been confidence is not something you tell others “hey am confidence” but people around you just feel your value, from you walk, sit, the you talk, hey am not saying that you have to boost to others to show off that you are confident but strive for a balance.
I have compile a list of helpful practical tip’s that would boost your self confidence, been confidence is not a trait many of us are born with but develop gradually as we grow and grow.
Before diving into the list, let’s define confidence.
What is confidence?
According to Wikipedia, Confidence is a state of being clear-headed either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence comes from a Latin word ‘fidere’ which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self.
Let’s dive in.
How to build your self confidence
1. confident men take care of themselves
Taking good care of yourself, look good, take proper care of your grooming, dress properly but these doesn’t mean that you have to spend all your resources on your looks.
No! It does mean to take time for a basic grooming routine and learning the basics of dressing appropriately like brushing your teeth, regularly taking your bath, dressing appropriately, running a comb through your head, looking at yourself on the mirror and shaving.
All these may look simple but you will be surprised at the number of men who overlook all these basic dressing code.
The golden rule of looking looking good and appearing A is to wear what you are comfortable in, dress in a way that it would be easy to walk up to a woman or attend an emergency meeting.
2. Confident men have goals and purpose
Set goals for yourself, have a purpose in life and work towards it, it will definitely boost your self esteem. Goals are purpose and promise you make to yourself, the more you fulfill those promises, the more your self esteem build’s up. If you can’t keep a promise to yourself, it will definitely affect how you interact with yourself and others.
Set goals and make sure you accomplish them, set deadline, if you sleep on it, then try waking up early to complete it, plan how you spend how you spend your time, who you spend it on and where you spend it.
Start by setting up small short term goal, the more you accomplish your goals, the more confidence you will have to move over to bigger goals.
3. confident men are optimistic
Staying positive even in the face of danger is an attribute every confident man has. They know that things doesn’t always workout as planned but rather than worrying about the inevitable, they surround themselves with positive energy.
Do you find yourself looking at the negative side of everything?
Try looking at the bright side of the story and you will be amazed!
4. Confident men don’t imagine, they take action
Instead of sitting in the couch in your house imagining, fantasizing about a project, your new business idea, an adventure or that beautiful gorgeous lady you like to ask out, a confident man will take the Bull by the horns and face reality.
As a man, there is nothing more deadlier than allowing your mind to take more action than you are actually taking.
Take action even if you fall, it’s part of the plan but don’t forget to learn from what you did wrong and work on it.
5. A confident man knows that failure is inevitable and is not afraid of failing
Ask every successful man, they will tell you how many times they failed but the failure didn’t stop them from moving further. The comfort zone is the deadliest place a man can be in.
6. Confident men are always eager to learn
There are millions of skills and knowledge to acquire. Confident men are always eager to learn skills that would help them handle anything life throws up at them.
What is that skill that you have always wanted to learn?
It’s time for you to take action and stop procrastinating
7. Confident men understand themselves
In other to understand what’s happening around you, you need to understand yourself, the type of person you are? You identity? Set your standards? What you can do and what you can’t do? Know your limitations, strength and weakness? What is your purpose?
8. Confident men are always willing to help others
Having something that others want is the key to having a good self esteem, it makes you look more valuable to others and make you content. It doesn’t mean that you have to become other people’s pet or agree to whatever they say but simply knowing who to help and when to help them.
9. As a confident man, you don’t have to agree to everything
Having a unique voice at set you out of the noisy crowd will definitely set you apart as a confident man because you are not afraid of having a different opinion even when others are against it.
Conclusion
Building up your self esteem does not happen over night but over time, be patient with yourself and keep pushing.